In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he
was pursuing the question: "What kind of man are you looking for?"
She sat quietly for a moment before looking him
in the eye & asking, "Do you really want to know?"
Reluctantly, he said, "Yes."
She began to expound:
"As a woman in this day & age, I am in
a position to ask a man what can you do for me that I can't do for myself?
I pay my own bills. I take care of my household
without the help of any man.... or woman for that matter.
I am in the position to ask, "What can you
bring to the table?"
The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that
she was referring to money.
She quickly corrected his thought & stated,
"I am not referring to money. I need something more."
"I need a man who is striving for
excellence in every aspect of life."
He sat back in his chair, folded his arms,
& asked her to explain.
She said:
"I need someone who is striving for
excellence mentally because I need conversation & mental stimulation. I
don't need a simple-minded man.
I need someone who is striving for excellence
spiritually because I don't need to be unequally yoked...believers mixed with
unbelievers is a recipe for disaster.
I need a man who is striving for excellence
financially because I don't need a financial burden.
I need someone who is sensitive enough to
understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded.
I need someone who has integrity in dealing
with relationships. Lies and game playing are not my idea of a strong man.
I need a man who is family-oriented. One who
can be the leader, priest and provider to the lives entrusted to him by God.
I need someone whom I can respect. In order to
be submissive, I must respect him.
I cannot be submissive to a man who isn't
taking care of his business.
I have no problem being submissive...he just
has to be worthy.
And by the way, I am not looking for him...He
will find me. He will recognize himself in me. He may not be able to explain
the connection, but he will always be drawn to me. God made woman to be a
helpmate for man. I can't help a man if he can't help himself."
When she finished her spill, she looked at him.
He sat there with a puzzled look on his face.
He said, "You are asking a lot."
She replied, "I'm worth a lot."
--- Author Unknown
